How did you meet your husband?
At church actually. I had just moved back to California and was a nanny for a local family. I’d been in the area a few months when this tall, dark and handsome ‘newbie’ showed up one Sunday. I couldn’t take my eyes off of him throughout all of Sacrament meeting. I have a thing for tall, skinny guys and at 6′ 8″, 215lbs, he fit the bill perfectly. He came and sat next to me for the next hour, Sunday school, but didn’t say a word! It about drove me nuts, and then when the class was over he got up like he was just going to leave. So I quickly struck up a conversation with something lame like ‘where do you buy your shoes’, blaming it on the fact that my brother is also tall and has a hard time finding larger shoes. It was pretty comical, but it did the trick.
I found out he was home from school – BYU-Idaho – on his off track, and we started hanging out with some mutual friends for a few months until one day, at Institute (A.K.A – bible study) he was reading the bulletin board in the hallway, and I walked by and slapped his butt. Then just kept on walking. I was dying in my head – ‘did I really just do that?!?’. But in his head he was thinking ‘green light!’ and he finally asked me on a proper date.
How long have you been married?
We sealed the deal in the Oakland LDS temple on August 26, 2006. It was the perfect day. Sunny, not too warm, the fountain at the temple was on and I was beyond happy. I probably did, but I don’t remember feeling the ‘jitters’ at all. I remember sitting in the waiting room wondering ‘can I go in yet?’.
Always the impatient one.
What is your favorite part about being married to your husband?
What is the hardest part about being married?
Communication was our biggest battle. I had the hardest time just coming out and telling him what I wanted and needed and he had the hardest time understanding what the heck I was saying. I’m an emotional being and he’s a rational being so we literally weren’t speaking the same language. It’s taken time, understanding, patience, some loving counseling and a bit of heart break to finally strip down all of our walls so we would let the other person in. It’s not such an easy thing molding your life around another all of a sudden.
Do you have a children?
How has this affected your marriage and how do you cope?
What do you think is the “key” to a successful marriage?